The Engagement Ring

"Traditionally", a bride wears two rings. Her engagement ring, and her wedding ring. And that's perfectly fine, don't get me wrong. However, I personally don't find it practical to have two rings. What for? Why do I need two? Unless I find a valid reason for it, I am happy that my husband followed my instructions not to get me an engagement ring. Little did I know though, that he still planned on proposing to me in his own, rebellious way :) 

Photo taken by Mango Red

Instead of an engagement ring, my husband got me engagement earrings. He said everyone else would have a ring, so this was his own, grand way of saying I was special and that it was worth the investment. My diamond earrings twinkle like stars. The earrings were from Racquel Talpacido-Ilustre of Love Rocks Jewels. The very same website that I used to frequent when I was visualizing my own engagement. I love it to death. When I was engaged, and people learned of it, it cracked me up when their eyes would automatically search for a ring on my finger. I'd play with my earrings and I'd feel like I'm Jem from Jem and the Holograms for some reason. Hehe.

Engagement rings can be tricky--they are expensive and society has made you believe that not all rings are created equal because of the diamond's cut, quality, size, brand, among other things. It's enough to scare off a boyfriend, who may want to propose but has been confined into the notion that he is not worthy of his lady if he can't even afford a decent diamond ring. 


Think about it long and hard. Do you need one? Or do you need the most important man in your life to commit without having to worry and have sleepless nights about a bloody ring? 

In Sex and the City 2, Big gave Carrie a black diamond engagement ring--it's not exactly cheaper perhaps, but it was given to her for a different reason, it signified how well Big understood Carrie, as a person and as his wife. 

Initially, he kinda proposed using the most gorgeous electric blue Manolo Blahniks--now THAT'S an engagement ring! Hehe.


Here are other alternatives which I think makes for a more practical addition to your wedding jewelry collection, not necessarily because it's cheaper, but because it's not so redundant and creates for a "new rule" that may even have more meaning and a story behind it. 

How about a lucky charm? Or your favorite stone?

But maybe you are thinking, but I want an engagement ring! A diamond engagement ring wherein my boyfriend will bend on one knee, sweep me off of my feet, and make me feel like a million bucks. Then go ahead. If that's what YOU want then by all means. But it's not for everyone. So if you feel it's not you, then try to change your own rules. But maybe you are wondering--uh...yeah but it's not like I'm the one who's gonna propose? A Rebellious Bride is a clever girl. Figure out a way to "hint" it. Point black I just told my husband I don't want an engagement ring so if he was planning on getting one, I don't want it. He was shocked. He even asked me if I was feeling well. Hahahah! But you'll figure it out :) So girls, engagement ring -- want it? Or change it? Your thoughts?

XOXO,

Kai :)

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